Comments on: Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building a New Life, Revised Edition

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:28:50 +0000

This is a wonderfully insightful book.My therapist recommended it to me. It helped me through a very bad time.This book puts a lot of uncomfortable times into perspective. I recommend this to everyone I meet who is going through a divorce.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 03:04:39 +0000

In my son’s words, “…my Mom took the worst thing and made it the best thing..” My divorce was the most painful yet the most liberating event of my life. This contradiction is typical of what you deal with as you go through the process, and Abigail Trafford charts a very realistic course through the journey. Her stories about individual couples was particularly helpful to me in discovering that there really is no “victim” in the divorcing couple. If I had to pick one “manual” for anyone dealing with divorce, this would be the one.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 02:11:57 +0000

I’ve been separated for six months and just read Crazy Time. I’m stunned how the book covers what I felt, what I’m feeling, and I’d guess, what I’m going to feel. As I’ve been reading it non-stop for the last three days (nerdily highlighting and writing in the margins), I feel like I’ve grown enormously.
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Adam Sacks

Adam Sacks — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 01:28:51 +0000

This book is THE BOOK on divorce. Highly recommended. Really interesting and necessary! Get it, read it, live it…
Rating: 5 / 5

By: Michael Schmidt

Michael Schmidt — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 23:24:00 +0000

I received this book from a valued friend and found most of the information in it fit well and appeared useful. (The up side of the book is well documented in other reviews.) Then I got to the chapters on sex and love. Ms. Trafford is clearly of the opinion that promiscuity is a post-divorce stage if one chooses to allow it. This raises two questions: Where are all those women eagerly waiting for the chance to jump into my bed? And which other points in the book were superficially researched, researched from a one-sided viewpoint, or not researched at all?

For those who are interested, Scott Adams in The Dilbert Zone describes accurately and with considerable sensitivity (and wit!) the socio-sexual stone wall that is faced by the (generally geeky) unpopular male in our society. Unfortunately Ms. Trafford’s failure to recognize this problem matters a lot, because it is arguably to some of us the single most important factor in staying within a doomed relationship beyond all common sense and possibly in having entered that relationship in the first place.

I wonder how much else in this book only works for the popular females. I’m afraid that I’m deeply suspicious that the book is written to validate, guilt- and judgement-free, as many as possible of the feelings that are popularly associated with the death of a marriage. I suggest that’s opium, not food, to a person suffering what really is crazy time.

Cheers.
Rating: 1 / 5